Like most girls, my three daughters are interested in how relationships work. Especially ‘grown up’ relationships, like boyfriends, partners and husbands. They are also quite interested in babies, not so much the making bit but they all know how they get out.
I love driving the car and listening to them chat about life, and often pick up tidbits that they wouldn’t tell me directly. I sometimes store these bits and pieces away for future conversations, other times I think ‘I must use that in my blog’.
The other day, I eavesdropped on such a conversation.
They were talking about boyfriends and more specifically what age it was ‘okay’ to have a boyfriend.
DD1, who is almost 11 going on 15, was talking about some girls in their Brownies group who were 8, and were ‘always’ going on about their current boyfriends.
DD1 was outraged, ’8 is far too young’, she insisted.
DD2 asked what age was okay then.
DD1 thought for a bit, and proclaimed ‘When you go to secondary school it’s okay. But you don’t have to have a boyfriend. Some people don’t want a boyfriend or girl even at that age.’
The other two respectfully listened to their older sister spout the wisdom afforded to her in her advanced years. ( 19 months difference for DD2, 4 years for DD3)
‘When I’m grown up’, she continued, ‘ I will probably have a boyfriend, and I might get married but there is no way I’m going to have a baby. That’s disgusting. I’ll adopt instead.’
Yeah, yeah I thought. I said that too at that age. I’m not going to worry about grandchild deprivation just yet.
DD2(9) was keen to get in on the act.
‘When I grow up’, she announced,’ I don’t know if I’ll have a boyfriend, or get married but I’m definitely having babies.’
Eek! I made a note to look into teenage contraception asap.
DD3, who is 6, wanted to have her say too.
‘When I grow up, I’m not going to bother with a boyfriend or have babies. I just want a wedding.’
Future bridezilla alert! We better start saving.