I had three people compliment me on my hair last week. They said they liked my highlights and thought they were really natural. This amused me as any ‘highlights’ I have are about as natural as you can get.
I’m not one to spend a lot of time on my hair but until about 12 months ago, I used to get it dyed regularly. Then, for various reasons you can read about here, I decided to stop using hair dye.
You also can see what my hair looked like a couple of months into this decision on the link above.
I updated here a couple of months after that, but since then I’ve been a bit remiss.
But here I am now. This is what my hair looks like right now after a year with no colour in it.
All the colour is gone now, I had the last bits snipped off a few weeks ago. To be honest, I was glad to see them go.
So how do I feel about being grey now it’s a reality, not just a state somewhere in my future?
I feel fine about it. More than fine, I really like it. I feel like I’ve been liberated and let into a secret that not many 40 year old women know. Going grey doesn’t hurt a bit, in fact it’s a lot of fun. Even my friends who were most horrified by my plan have admitted it doesn’t look as bad as they thought it would.
My kids, especially my eldest two, were initially horrified but I’ve trained them to call it silver and they definitely like it more now it’s all the same colour.
My husband doesn’t care, why should he? He’s got more than a few grey hairs himself.
Will I go back to dying my hair again? No, absolutely not. I like the way each strand is a different colour, you just don’t get that with a bottle of dye unless you are going to shell out for expensive highlights. And then you have to go back to the hairdresser every 6-8 weeks at least.
Going grey is not for everyone, I understand this. Society in general equates grey with ‘old’ and it’s a self fulfilling prophecy. Very few women let their hair change naturally until they are a lot older than 40. So it’s much more common to have grey hair at 60 than 40- it’s what people are used to seeing. However, I don’t think I look 60 yet, 42 yes but not 60.
But if you have been considering going grey yourself, this post might be the nudge you need to cancel that next hairdressing appointment and just see what happens. You’ve got nothing to lose and at the very least you’ll save yourself some money.