Going Grey Update

I had three people compliment me on my hair last week. They said they liked my highlights and thought they were really natural. This amused me as any ‘highlights’ I have are about as natural as you can get.

I’m not one to spend a lot of time on my hair but until about 12 months ago, I used to get it dyed regularly. Then, for various reasons you can read about here, I decided to stop using hair dye.

You also can see what my hair looked like a couple of months into this decision on the link above.

I updated here a couple of months after that, but since then I’ve been a bit remiss.

But here I am now. This is what my hair looks like right now after a year with no colour in  it.

All the colour is gone now, I had the last bits snipped off a few weeks ago. To be honest, I was glad to see them go.

So how do I feel about being grey now it’s a reality, not just a state somewhere in my future?

I feel fine about it. More than fine, I really like it. I feel like I’ve been liberated and let into a secret that not many 40 year old women know. Going grey doesn’t hurt a bit, in fact it’s a lot of fun. Even my friends who were most horrified by my plan have admitted it doesn’t look as bad as they thought it would.

My kids, especially my eldest two, were initially horrified but I’ve trained them to call it silver and they definitely like it more now it’s all the same colour.

My husband doesn’t care, why should he? He’s got more than a few grey hairs himself.

Will I go back to dying my hair again? No, absolutely not. I like the way each strand is a different colour, you just don’t get that with a bottle of dye unless you are going to shell out for expensive highlights. And then you have to go back to the hairdresser every 6-8 weeks at least.

Going grey is not for everyone, I understand this. Society in general equates grey with ‘old’ and it’s a self fulfilling prophecy. Very few women let their hair change naturally until they are a lot older than 40. So it’s much more common to have grey hair at 60  than 40- it’s what people are used to seeing. However, I don’t think I look 60 yet, 42 yes but not 60.

But if you have been considering going grey yourself, this post might be the nudge you need to cancel that next hairdressing appointment and just see what happens. You’ve got nothing to lose and at the very least you’ll save yourself some money.


11 comments on “Going Grey Update

  1. Your hair is fab J! 🙂 I’ve been letting some of the grey at the sides of my head shine through when I got for colour as I only have a few highlights now. I often wonder what would happen if I left it altogether.

  2. Jacq Your post a year ago and some other things that entered my consciousness around the same time has led me to do the same. I’m also growing my hair long though so I think it might take me a bit longer and about 2 months ago I died my hair for the last time so that the coloured bits were similar to my main natural colour.

    I’ll let you know how it looks in time.

  3. It suits you, and doesn’t look ‘grey’ in the photo – it’s got lovely tones. I’ve no idea how grey I am, but I think I probably have quite a lot. I hate dyeing my hair, but I don’t think I’m ready to be grey yet!

  4. It’s so refreshing to find someone else over 40 who does NOT dye – at work there are just two of us not to dye (the other isn60 though)
    and 30+ who do and I don’t have a single friend who doesn’t dye their hair. It looks like we may have a similar natural colour – for me, starting blonde and going dark – the grey/white is like my hair colour going in reverse 😉

  5. I’ve just had my hair cut and the grey is more obvious but I like it 🙂 You look great grey and that is quite encouraging!


    PS Not that I give a monkey’s fart if I don’t end up looking great! I’m fab regardless!

  6. Your hair looks fine and you also have beautiful eyes. I’m 66 but had first grey hairs in adolescence. Obviously dyed my hair in the beginning (I had naturally dark brown hair) as during my twenties got lots of unkind comments. Finally decided at age 38 after the birth of my second child, I wasn’t going to waste time and money on covering up my natural “beauty”! Had a few ashy streaks put in as hate that desperate white roots look and as they grew out I realised that I had lovely silver streaks of my own. As so many women do dye their hair, I enjoyed being different. I got loads of compliments even from hairdressers. I changed my makeup so that face and hair look harmonious. People may think you are a bit older than you are initially but they will soon realise that you are authentic and attractive, have a lovely smile and nice eyes and that you are really rather special. I detest those blue and purple shampoos – you can tell when someone is using them and in my opinion they don’t look good. I just wash my hair regularly and keep it silky and a bit tousled (tousled, breaking up the strands, means you don’t get that mass of white). My two sons both have some grey hair and they look fine. I’m glad I was brave enough to just be natural and was not tempted to dye it again . Makes me feel like a “what you see is what you get” person.

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