The Gallery: Bond
Our kids are fairly normal school age and preteen children. They are not perfectly behaved and I certainly can’t ‘take them anywhere’. Now the youngest is 5, we’ve only just started to think about going out as a family for lunch or dinner at somewhere that isn’t McDonalds.
Our children like to get their own way, and object when they don’t get it. If they are thwarted, it’s because someone is ‘being mean’. There is a lot of yelling in our house. They fight a lot across a spectrum that ranges from mild, harmless bickering to all and all out physical warfare. They nick each other’s toys, borrow each other’s pencils and share books with each other. Often two of them decide they can’t treat each other nicely and end up having to be separated for a period of time.
I often feel like I’m in one of those logic puzzles where a farmer has a group of animals that they have to get across a river in a boat that can only take 3 at a time , bur you can’t leave certain combinations behind together. It’s definitely a matter of muddling through.
But when our children have been separated for a while, after school or when they have just got up in the morning, they always, always , always gravitate to each other. Together in someone’s room in the weekend, playing some really intricate game or squashed together on one sofa, not quite big enough for all of them, after school.
Watching TV, playing on tablets or Nintendos, or just reading, they seem to have a bond that draws them together. They get comfort from each other’s company.
Of course won’t last forever, nothing does. The two older DD’s are showing every sign of preteen stroppiness and I can well imagine a time when they can’t even stand to be the same house as the rest of their family.
So I’ll take lots of photos, enjoy the fact that at the moment my children do mostly still enjoy each other’s company and try not to think to much about the teenage years that are rapidly advancing.
For more bonding photos, visit this week’s Gallery Over at Sticky Fingers.